Kristagarner’s Weblog

So, i have an aol account and everyday i sign in to check my mail…and i always look at the 5 top stories that they display when you first log on to aol.com, and today one of the stories i saw caught my eye.  It was a story about Ryan Phillippe and Reese Witherspoon’s divorce.  This is what the story said….

Ryan Phillippe reveals in a new interview just how distraught he was after his split from Reese Witherspoon.“After the divorce, I was a physical wreck. I wanted to die,” he says in the new issue of the U.K. publication Man About Town (via US). “I was ready to kill myself. I was not taking care of myself at all. I would wake up and cry and vomit.”

However, the story doesn’t not mention why the couple got a divorce but only give sympathy to Ryan.  But, we all know why they split, because Ryan cheated on Reese with some D list actress. What really ticks me off is that why sympathize over the one who is in the wrong instead of focusing on all of the accomplishments of Reese during all of the mess she was going through.  She is an amazing actress and her side of the story is what needs to be talked about, not his.  Its perfectly normal for him to be acting like that becuase he has to live with the guilt of cheating on his wife, and he knows what he did was wrong, so theres nothing new about that situation. But what i think its amazing his how Reese as completely bounced back from the whole thing and i think she’s at the highlight of her career right now and she looks amazing too! she is one of my favorite actresses and she deserves more credit than she deserves. I dont understand how her ex husband can make headlines but all of her accomplishments dont. I dont know, its just another one of those little things i notice now that i’ve been in this class! Ugg…the media i swear!

After reading this story called “what happens when violence knocks and politeness answers?”, it really made me think about what i would i do if i were to be in that same situation.  First of all, I know that if i dont know who is at the door, i dont answer it…which can make a huge difference b/c you never know who is gonna be at the door these days…b/c there are some crazy and sick people in this world.  Also, i think i would have handled the situation differently too.  If for some reason, the guy did manage to come into my house, i deffinitely wouldn’t let him get away with what he was doing without a fight.  I guess that’s just my way of showing respect for myself and my body.  Im not just going to let some random guy rape me, and enjoy it, he’s going to be suffering just as much as me.  I would do everything in my power to try to stop him from getting the pleasure that he is after. 

 The girl in this story was really starting to make me mad about 2 sentences into the story….I’m sorry but if some boy was jabbing me with a pencil every 5 seconds, ill be damned if he doesn’t get jabbed back.  There’s no way i would let someone do that to me.  It obviously screwed up her mind mentally, and really stayed with her for the rest of her life.  Sometimes in life you just HAVE to be rude to some people or they won’t leave you alone.  They’ll get that power over you that they’ve been craving for.  I’m generally a nice person, but if someone makes me mad, they pretty much know it.  I can’t stand to let someone walk all over me without having anything to say.  Thats just human nature to me i guess, and i think thats how everyone should be.  Don’t let other people get you down and ruin your day. 

The fact that this woman in the story didn’t think that her own rapist deserved more than 35 years in jail is just crazy to me.  I would be trying to put that man away for the rest of his life if something like that happened to me, i wouldn’t let them get away  with it at all.  Rape is a very serious thing and can really ruin someones life, i just dont understand how the woman in the story didnt see that at the time.  I realize that it did effect her in life later on, but it only made her more afraid of the fact that something could happen to her instead of knowing that she did everything she could to do something about it and keep on living her life normally instead of in fear.

Since we did our presentations about women in history, i recently heard a song that made me think of what we were doing in class.  Its a new song by a country singer name Hilary Scott.  I thought i would post the lyrics and the name of the song in case anyone wanted to listen to it.

“I was Here” By Hillary Scott

“You will notice me, ill be leaving my mark like initials carved in an old oak tree, you wait and see. Maybe ill write like Twango, maybe ill paint like Van gogh, cure the common cold, i dont know, but im ready to start ’cause i know in my heart, i wanna do something that matters, say something different, something that sets the whole world on its ear, i wanna do something better with the time i’ve been given, i wanna try to touch a few hearts in this life, and leave nothing less than something that says I was Here.

I will prove you wrong, if you think i’m all talk you’re in for a shock ’cause this dream’s too strong and before too long, maybe ill compose symphanies, maybe ill fight for world peace, b/c i know its my destiny to leave more than just a trace of myself in this place. I wanna do something that matters, say something different, something that sets the whole world on its ear, i wanna do something better with the time i’ve been given, i wanna try to touch a few hearts in this life, and leave nothing less than something that says i was here.

 And i know that i, i will do more than just pass through this life, i’ll leave nothing less than something that says I was here. I was here.”

So basically, what Hillary Scott is trying to say is that she’s not going to just go through life not accomplishing anything, she’s going to do something with her life and make a difference, and this song reminds me of all of the women we did our presentations on because they all made a difference in this world, they all did something that made us remember them.